Three new rejections today. One fiction two non fiction.
Two form rejections one not so form.
The editor absolutely spot on went with me where I was going in that tiny piece. It is fairly unusual for me to get a rejection quite like that. The editor loves, really loves the little story on a personal level but doesn’t feel like it would quite fit with the zine. She also said something really nice about other things I’d written (she admitted being nosy like I am and followed my links) which was pretty neat.
Looking back at this year most of my rejections are form I think. Do form rejections usually say we look forward to more? Or try again? Is this one of those ego blind spots that I have had for years?
Some of my rejections have been full of praise and things that make me feel squishy in my ego area.
As I’ve tried to tell a few just starting to get into the submission game authors I’ve met in the past few months, a lot of being an author is people saying no.
Sometimes just no. Sometimes people try to be cheeky and wind up being condescending and kinda rude. Some say no by never responding etc.
It feels pretty good to be at a place where I can a.) enjoy my rejections. Especially the ones that say nice things. And b.) wallow in my butthurt for about five minutes then get back to work.
This is the first year that I have resubmitted stories that have been rejected. Once upon a time I immediately trashed or tore apart stories if they got rejected once. More often than not I ruined them doing that.
Now I can say okay well X editor isn’t into that, aww my ego then oh wait maybe THIS editor will love it.
And so it goes.
I’ve also come to the most important realization that not everyone HAS to love every word that comes out of my mouth.
That is okay.
Right this instant I already had my ten minutes of butthurt. And if you need a quick lesson here’s what you do.
This is what you say to yourself,
“OH you BASTARDS how can you not understand my beautiful fragile genius MOTHER FUCKERS”
Do not say this to editors they don’t really like that.
Rinse repeat as necessary. Get yourself some small consolation treat. I had a chocolate.
Sulk for a few more minutes.
Shake it off, woman up* and get back to work.
Now it is time for me to get back to work.
*or man up if you want.